Self-Esteem Counselling
Counselling for
Self-Esteem & Confidence
- BACP Accredited
- BUPA Approved
- Practical & Exploratory
- London & Online
Your Relationship With Yourself
Counselling for Self-Esteem & Confidence
The relationship we have with ourselves directly impacts how we live our lives. Self-esteem and self-confidence are the two cornerstones of this relationship. Improving them is at the heart of most individual counselling work.
Self-Esteem vs Self-Confidence
Similar — but not the same
Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves — more about how we construct our internal world. Self-confidence, on the other hand, is about how we carry ourselves in front of other people. It is external facing.
They can be related but do not have to be. In fact there are four possible scenarios:
Low self-esteem + Low self-confidence
Low self-esteem + High self-confidence
High self-esteem + Low self-confidence
High self-esteem + High self-confidence
Although the likelihood exists, low self-esteem does not automatically bring low self-confidence. You might develop high self-confidence as a coping strategy to hide the low self-esteem you feel inside.
What Causes Low Self-Esteem
How it develops
We start building our self-esteem from the moment we are born. Our experiences, relationships and the support we get from those relationships help shape our sense of self-worth.
Negative experiences like being criticised, made to feel guilty, being bullied or being abused will make us feel worse about ourselves. Positive experiences where we are made to feel valued and loved increase self-esteem and help us feel better.
Most people will experience some form of low self-esteem at some point in their life. Loss of job, illness, relationship problems, or life-changing events can all create such feelings.
Signs to Look For
Recognising low self-esteem
A person with low self-esteem might be withdrawn, fearful, unable to handle compliments or criticism, self-critical, unrealistic about goals, or unsocial.
A person lacking self-confidence may be indecisive, unable to contribute their own opinions, not assertive, and fearful of speaking in public.
How I Can Help
Building self-esteem & confidence
We can either work cognitively — looking at thoughts, behaviour and consequences — or examine some of the underlying issues. Working through your thoughts and feelings, we will try and understand the pattern of behaviour and the thinking that might be supporting it.
By gaining insight and a deeper understanding of yourself, and by developing your inner resources for positive feedback, you will be able to enhance your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Ready to begin?
A free 15-minute consultation to ask questions and see if this is right for you.
Book Free Consultation 📞 07881 400 200Online · Hampton TW12
Available Services
Single Session Counselling
Ongoing one-to-one sessions exploring personal patterns.
Individual Counselling
Ongoing one-to-one sessions exploring personal patterns.
Couple Counselling
Support for partners navigating conflict and trust
Family Counselling
Helping families find their way back to each other
The Counselling Process
How the full counselling process works.
BACP Accredited Member 101942
BUPA & AXA Approved
Self-esteem & confidence
are built not found
Every journey begins somewhere. Counselling starts with a conversation — nothing more.
Take the First Step
Ready to build your
self-esteem and self-confidence?
Start with a free 15-minute call. No commitment, no pressure — just a conversation to see if it feels right.
In-person – London SE1 & Hampton TW12 · Online – Worldwide